Marriages can be very rewarding but they can also be a lot of work at times. It is
something that has to be maintained with love and care no matter how long you have been
together. This can be difficult with the other myriad of responsibilities and obligations which
leads many couples to feel they have lost their “spark”. In an article published by Marriage
Counseling IO, seven tips are listed in ways to rekindle the spark and romance. One of our
clinicians was able to contribute her opinion on one of the ones she finds most important. She
writes,

“Think a new way—date your mate. Slowly reignite the romance, rather than
focusing on the companionship. It is about your mindset—whatever we focus on, we get.
Make dates, text your partner sweet or sexy notes, leave notes or cards for them. Touch
them and kiss them again. Start noticing them as a sexy individual and view your partner
from a new perspective. If you want the romance back, focus on it. Make each other feel
sexy, loved, appreciated, cared for, and wanted. Think in possibilities rather than limits.
Your mindset can be young, no matter what your age. I worked with a couple who had
not had sex in over 20 years. Using this mindset and focusing on what they wanted, rather
than what they didn’t, helped them turn it around.”
Other contributors weighed in on what they found important in rekindling romance as well,
including reconnecting through shared hobbies and prioritizing physical affection. To see what
the other contributors had to say, you can read the whole article here.